Parents’ and teachers’ words and sayings can stick in the mind for many
years.
The truth is, children simply do not have the
ability to distinguish between fair and unfair criticism, or make allowances if the
adults in their lives have had a hard day.
When you pleased your parents, or other adult authority figures, they rewarded
you: they gave you attention and approval.
When you displeased them, they
showed their disapproval by withdrawing attention or privileges or, in some cases,
punishing you physically.
The means by which a person moulds the behaviour of
another using a combination of reward and punishment is termed conditioning.
Very few young
people reach adulthood without having their confidence dented in some way.
Once you understand your conditioning you can unravel the knots, dispense
with the ropes that tied you down and leave them behind forever.
years.
The truth is, children simply do not have the
ability to distinguish between fair and unfair criticism, or make allowances if the
adults in their lives have had a hard day.
When you pleased your parents, or other adult authority figures, they rewarded
you: they gave you attention and approval.
When you displeased them, they
showed their disapproval by withdrawing attention or privileges or, in some cases,
punishing you physically.
The means by which a person moulds the behaviour of
another using a combination of reward and punishment is termed conditioning.
Very few young
people reach adulthood without having their confidence dented in some way.
Once you understand your conditioning you can unravel the knots, dispense
with the ropes that tied you down and leave them behind forever.