You can’t have a better tomorrow if you are thinking
about yesterday all the time.
about yesterday all the time.
The past lives on only in your thoughts. It is dead, but you’re not. You’ll grow in
confidence only if you are willing to let go of the past, learn from it, and move on.
No matter what has gone before, your future, and how you feel about it, will be a
direct result of what you do from now on.
It is being shaped right now, moment
by moment, as the consequences of your desires, thoughts, dreams, actions and
words begin to crystallise.
Stop talking about the past, especially mistakes and misfortunes. If you
catch yourself breaking this rule, change the subject.
Reframing is a way of changing how
you feel about past events that still trouble you:
1. Relax your body. Still your thoughts.
2. Go back to an event which left its mark on you and get in touch
with all the emotions you felt at the time.
3. Now reframe it. Run the scene through in your mind, but visualise a
different outcome. ‘See’ it happening as you would have liked, really
‘feel’ it. With practice your mind will accept this as reality.
4. Over time you can work through as many ‘difficult’ memories as you
wish. Start with the least troublesome then, as you become more
proficient at using the technique, tackle more serious issues.
The reframing technique sends a powerful message to your
subconscious to record over old tapes with new, more positive,
confidence building interpretations of events.
You may not be able to forget what has gone before, but you can stop dwelling
on it.